I’m here reminiscing… I remember when we were planning our wedding, there were certain things on my to do list—like the honeymoon for instance—which by the the is very important…but I was like if it didn’t happen the way I envisioned it, l’m probably not going lose sleep over it.

I guest when you grew in church and you wait and wait and wait some more to be married… the most important things is to prepare for the marriage and not so much the wedding day—even though the wedding day is as equally important!

Over the years I was very fortunate to witness some splendid weddings and see the honeymooners going above and beyond to enjoy the most extravagant honeymoons—because, yes, this is a very sacred time to consummate the union…but I came to the conclusion that “A lot of couples enjoy beautiful wedding days, beautiful honeymoons but very ugly marriages.”

When I was given my chance to stand before God and many witnesses to exchange vows to “the one” He kept for me—to me standing before a Holy God was the most important aspect, and that sort of trumps everything else. Don’t get me wrong because I do consider every aspect of the wedding details important—every part, great or minuscule.

I do believe that we all have preferences and desires—-and they should be carried out if your heart so inclines accordingly. When I was fixing to get married, the only person I have to depend on to pay for my wedding was me and God. So for years upon years I had been putting away pennies towards the big. I was encouraged by this verse in proverbs 30:25~6:8 “The ants are a people not strong, yet they prepare their meat in the summer; Provideth her meat in the summer, and gathereth her food in the harvest.”

I know this might sound silly to some but I had purposely bought myself a blue water bottle to save my loose coins in—I also wrote on the side of it “For my wedding.” My mother always said every ‘mikkle makes a muckle’ or one, one cocoa full basket. I love my mama, she’s a wise woman. I must add that I was always preparing myself for marriage as long as I can remember. I felt like it was something innate somehow. Even though I hadn’t much clue about its institution nor did I had any prospect—in my heart I was somehow sway towards its threshold.

By the way, I was well aware I had no parents, nor maternal grandparents to secure a dowry for me so I had to work hard and save. I wasn’t of the mindset, that I should wait for my husband to come and pay my share. I wanted to be independently ready to enter the marriage-ship without any added burden on my bethrotal. I came from a single parent household and my mother had no monetary blessings to bestow upon me excepts her consent and wisely words of encouragement—which was few because my mother was never married of course.

However, my church family and friends poured in and gave us monetary gifts but the real wedding bills we had to fit ourselves. When Jacob and I came together to budget out our wedding—our honeymoon didn’t take precedence.   We planned it that way on purpose. Our honeymoon was at the bottom of our list. One of the main reason is that we knew God had brought us together and because of this we anticipated a lifetime to creat marvellous memorise! 

Secondly, we didn’t want to end up in debts. I’ve seen people today still murmuring, or ended up in divorce because they never get over the cost of the wedding. Please don’t get me wrong, everyone is at liberty to go all out but it should be done in moderation. It can become a burden if you don’t make good choices and plan wisely. 

So, Jacob planned our honeymoon and we spend it locally. Yes we sure did. He droves us to Connecticut Hampton Inn hotel. It was very modest with an indoor pool, gym and super wifi but who needs wifi on their honeymoon—if you get the jest🤪wink wink. Ha!  It was about an hour away from home—just down the street it seems. And I never once complained about it for I was too happy and I trusted my husband.

The truth is, I would have love to be flown✈️ to Paris like every bride wants to… that was my true💞desires but I was so grateful to be finally rejoined to my husband (who was predestined for me before the foundation of the world). I was more worried about my stretch marks and getting to know Mr. Nimocks for the very “first time” if your get the witticism at play here. We were total novices. Ha! So, I was more than happy to work with our meager budget plan and no I didn’t settle—I was more than contented! 

Thanks to Dave Ramsey. We stayed there for only three days, then we return home and it was life not as usual… Serval months before our 1 years anniversary the babes Informed me that the company is sending him overseas and he was taking me with—and oh boy I was over the moon. So again my hubs planned a surprised honeymoon trip for me to Mexico City—to make up for the fact that he too wanted more for me  but we’re both agreed to remain within our budget. 

You can see the pic for yourself. With all of that said—we entered our union with minimal debts. What I’m saying to the girl who’s getting ready to do this—keep it beautiful, romantic and simple. You don’t need to break the bank for one day. It’s vital to celebrates with family and friends but remember the core goal is to plan towards the lifetime of a blissful marriage—too often, countless couples secure the plans for the wedding day and not the marriage union after.

Moral of the story: Marriage is beautiful. The wedding day is a once in a life time even but be smart about every aspect. Be a good Steward with your money. Also check out the story of the first wedding Jesus attended in the NT-The wedding of Cana in John 2. Hope I could encourage any future bride to be.

Thank you for reading~ I love you but Jesus loves you more!

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